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As Katherine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy showed us in 1949′s Adam’s Rib, lawyers married to lawyers can be a challenging notion; indeed, these two nearly found themselves in divorce court – and it was a fictional film! A. Harrison Barnes, attorney, career coach and founder of LawCrossing.com says lawyers are trained in debate, never showing weakness and are sometimes overworked, which as we know, are never good for any marriage. Couple two legal minds in holy matrimony and it’s usually either a recipe for a lifelong blissful union or a major train wreck. Many relationship experts agree there’s no middle ground. Still, those marriages where the justice system plays a role in each spouse’s career aren’t as uncommon as some might think.

Many of us meet our future spouses in college. We bond over shared passions and career goals and let’s face it, we’re pretty convinced at that age we can change the world into a magical wonderland. Ah, the delusions of youth! But what happens when both graduate law school, take their state bar exams and then set out to find their niche in a law firm? What happens when only one spouse is able to find employment? It can create a difficult situation regardless of where a couple is in their relationship.

Approaching it as both a career coach and an attorney, A. Harrison Barnes reminds lawyers the importance of balance. There is always an inner struggle between home life and career, regardless of one’s chosen profession. By keeping priorities straight and not losing sight of the importance of all aspects of one’s life is crucial to finding contentment, not to mention satisfaction in a legal career. Most couples who are both practicing attorneys usually choose different areas of specialties. While one spouse pursues a career in defending those accused of crimes, the other spouse might seek family law.

It’s not uncommon for new graduated lawyers who also happen to be newlyweds to employ the same tools when searching for a legal job. Sites like LawCrossing.com are ideal in these situations because of the many job opportunities across every law specialty. And while many spouses don’t wish to practice law under the same roof, they do find satisfaction in the job hunt as a whole when they’re able to pursue it together, even when one is offered a position before the other. Not only that, but because LawCrossing.com offers other services, such as resume preparations, it can be a less stressful process.

While we all can’t dazzle the silver screen the way Hepburn and Trace did, we can certainly find humor in everyday occurrences of a shared profession. Remember, it’s about balance, respect for other’s decisions and those victories that happen from time to time that allow us to come home and share with our spouses. Two lawyers under the same roof is certainly possible, as thousands of marriages thrive each day. One thing’s for sure – the odds of there ever being a dull moment are minimal.

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